I just released my debut novel, The Dark Wife, which comes out of the closet immediately when I tell you what it’s about: a YA, lesbian retelling of the Persephone/Hades myth. When sharing my happiness for the book release, I get the shifting from foot to foot, the nervous tapping of the fingers together, and–if they’re brave–the person will ask me the following question:
“Can straight people read it?”
To which I respond, yes, straight people absolutely need to read it. Not just my book, or maybe not even my book–but straight people need to read gay books.
When you see the gay rights struggle on the news, it’s often easy to relegate the GLBT to a small counter culture that’s not immediately relevant to you, or even important. People have admitted to me before that they never cared about gay rights, or even thought about gay issues, because they didn’t know anyone who was gay.
That’s not true for everyone, but it’s an important trend to notice. They didn’t care because they didn’t know. And not everyone is going to know a gay person, and last I checked, we’re not heading out on a campaign with a slogan of “A GAY IN EVERY HOUSE.” (If we are, why am I always the last to know about these things? ;D)
That’s where books come in.
A book is something that becomes personally important. Within a story, the main character (usually, hopefully) becomes someone you identify with, love, struggle with every moment they struggle.
The simple truth is: how will you know what being gay is like if you never read a gay story? How will you know what we feel, what we think, how we love and live? How are we ever going to get the rights we need, the rights we’re denied, if people think we’re completely alien to everything they understand? If you read a gay story, and you are not gay, for a few days you step into the story’s space, and you learn what it means to love someone the world might think you shouldn’t be with, how love can be so beautiful no matter who loves who, how our hearts are just the same as yours.
Books lead to culture which leads to people. Literature, at its very essence, is something that can change an entire culture. In the YA community, especially, people become deeply impassioned about books, fall in love with books. Gay, YA books have the potential to bring about an entire movement of acceptance and love. Nothing could be better.
Slowly, but surely, every day it gets better for gay teens, it gets better for gay adults, it gets better, but the world is not going to change completely unless we are heard and understood. A book, a simple, beautiful book, is the most subversive thing on the planet, because–between front and back cover–you could begin to love someone who is gay, someone you never thought about before, but someone you will now never forget. Gay rights will, in that moment, become something personal to you.
The world needs straight people to read gay stories.
Sarah Diemer is the author of The Dark Wife, released today. She blogs at muserising.com and is offering a free, pay what you can version of The Dark Wife online here. Be sure to check out her book & the gorgeous book trailer!
As a straight person, I could not agree more. While I’ve always believed that love should be recognized and celebrated, GLBT issues once remained distant priorities because I rarely had occasion to think about them. But as I became close friends with people in the GLBT community, I began to recognize how absolutely essential it is that rights accorded to hetero relationships not be denied anyone else. I wish I’d read books like this years ago, but I didn’t know where to find them!
(And I just have to add that I’ve seen sneak peeks of this book and it is truly incredible!! If you love myth, dark fantasy, and true love I highly recommend it! :))
This is why I think it’s so important to have well-drawn gay supporting characters in books with straight MCs. A straight reader is more likely to be exposed to LGBT characters if they appear in a wide range of “mainstream” books, and that may help dispel the idea that straight folks won’t enjoy or relate to gay narrators. Same goes for stories featuring POC.
Also, just picked up The Dark Wife as my next Kindle read! Woot.
What Jen said, both about recognizing everyone’s right to be and on Sarah’s writing. 🙂
Othering can only happen when we think “those people aren’t like us” and keep separate.
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Moderator: Comment #4 by KCW links to a homophobic blog post. I’m not sure what your commenting policy is, but if that sort of thing is inappropriate here, would you please remove or otherwise flag the comment?
This comment need not be published either, if it would cause confusion. I just wanted to give a heads-up.
Hey,
Thank you. We certainly don’t allow that kind of thing, we will look into it.
It has been removed, thank you for the heads up.
Not to mention there is probably not a single person in the U.S. who doesn’t know any gay people. They just don’t know they know them.
And if you’re a parent, there’s no way to say your kid won’t grow up and be queer. I don’t care if your little girl loves frilly dresses or your little boy loves football. Stereotypes are not predictive of sexuality.
So yes folks, read those gay books!
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